“For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.” – James 3:16
Bible Verses About Being Contentious
The Nature of Contentiousness
Contentiousness often stems from our own pride and selfishness. It can lead us to quarrel and create division among us. The Bible consistently highlights that a contentious spirit can create chaos and disharmony. When we allow such negativity to infiltrate our hearts, we lose sight of love and understanding which we are called to embody as followers of Christ. As we reflect on this, we can remind ourselves to approach situations with an open heart, steering away from strife. By doing so, we can embrace peace instead of discord, fostering unity and harmony amongst ourselves.
Proverbs 17:19
“Whoever loves transgression loves strife; he who makes his door high seeks destruction.” – Proverbs 17:19
Proverbs 20:3
“It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.” – Proverbs 20:3
Proverbs 26:21
“As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome person for kindling strife.” – Proverbs 26:21
2 Timothy 2:24
“And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.” – 2 Timothy 2:24
Titus 3:2
“To slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward all men.” – Titus 3:2
The Consequences of Being Contentious
When we engage in contentious behavior, the consequences can ripple throughout our lives and relationships. We may find ourselves isolated, without support from friends and family. The Bible makes it clear that being contentious brings turmoil, not only to ourselves but to those around us. This is a reminder for us to self-reflect on our actions. By choosing to promote peace instead of strife, we can enjoy healthier relationships and create an atmosphere that glorifies God.
James 3:14
“But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth.” – James 3:14
Galatians 5:19-21
“The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, debauchery, idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.” – Galatians 5:19-21
Proverbs 28:25
“The greedy stir up conflict, but those who trust in the Lord will prosper.” – Proverbs 28:25
2 Corinthians 12:20
“For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder.” – 2 Corinthians 12:20
Philippians 1:15-16
“It is true that some preach Christ out of envy and rivalry, but others out of goodwill. The latter do so out of love, knowing that I am put here for the defense of the gospel.” – Philippians 1:15-16
The Call to Peace
We are called to pursue peace, and this can be a transformative act for us and those around us. The Lord desires for us to live in harmony and unity, free from strife and contentious behavior. This means actively seeking to resolve conflicts and extending grace to others, just as Christ has done for us. By choosing to be peacemakers, we reflect God’s love and grace, transforming contentiousness into compassion, and creating bonds that uplift and strengthen our communities.
Matthew 5:9
“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” – Matthew 5:9
Romans 12:18
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” – Romans 12:18
Ephesians 4:3
“Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” – Ephesians 4:3
Colossians 3:15
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.” – Colossians 3:15
Hebrews 12:14
“Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.” – Hebrews 12:14
God’s Wisdom vs. Human Disputes
God’s wisdom stands in stark contrast to human means of arguing and contention. We often fall into traps of anger or annoyance instead of seeking God’s understanding. The Bible teaches that true wisdom brings peace, something we desperately need in moments of conflict. We are reminded that we can ask God for wisdom and guidance, which can help us steer clear of contentiousness and instead foster fruitful dialogue and relationships. God’s ways are higher than our own, and trusting Him can guide us towards peace.
James 1:5
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” – James 1:5
James 3:17
“But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” – James 3:17
Proverbs 3:17
“Her paths are pleasant paths, and all her ways are peace.” – Proverbs 3:17
Proverbs 3:13-14
“Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding, for she is more profitable than silver and yields better