“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” – Colossians 4:6
Bible Verses About Saying Hurtful Things
Words Have Power
As we explore the Bible’s teachings, we realize that our words hold significant impact. They can either uplift others or tear them down. Jesus reminds us to be mindful of what we say, as our words reflect what is in our hearts. With kindness, we encourage each other and strengthen our communities rather than hurt them.
Proverbs 18:21
“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” – Proverbs 18:21
James 3:6
“The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.” – James 3:6
Proverbs 15:4
“The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.” – Proverbs 15:4
Proverbs 12:18
“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” – Proverbs 12:18
Ephesians 4:29
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29
Control and Restraint
In moments of anger and frustration, we may feel tempted to lash out with hurtful words. The Bible teaches us the importance of gaining control over our speech. By practicing restraint, we follow in Christ’s footsteps, who showed patience and compassion in the midst of adversity. Our self-control can lead to more peaceful interactions and harmony in our relationships.
Proverbs 29:20
“Do you see someone who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for them.” – Proverbs 29:20
James 1:19
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” – James 1:19
Proverbs 10:19
“Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues.” – Proverbs 10:19
Proverbs 17:27
“The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.” – Proverbs 17:27
Ecclesiastes 3:7
“A time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak.” – Ecclesiastes 3:7
Building Others Up
Instead of tearing others down with our words, we can focus on building each other up. The Bible encourages us to speak life into those around us, reminding us of the potential they have. Through encouragement and positive affirmations, we can foster an environment of love and support, reflecting God’s heart for His people.
1 Thessalonians 5:11
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11
Ephesians 4:15
“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.” – Ephesians 4:15
Hebrews 10:24
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” – Hebrews 10:24
Proverbs 16:24
“Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” – Proverbs 16:24
Colossians 3:13-14
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” – Colossians 3:13-14
The Impact of Gossip
Gossip is a common way in which hurtful words are spread. The Bible warns us of the dangers and consequences of engaging in gossip and slander. When we discuss others behind their backs, we cause division and harbor negativity. Instead, we should strive to create an atmosphere of trust and love, where we uplift rather than tear down. Our words can build bridges instead of walls.
Proverbs 11:13
“A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.” – Proverbs 11:13
Proverbs 20:19
“A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.” – Proverbs 20:19
Proverbs 16:28
“A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.” – Proverbs 16:28
Leviticus 19:16
“Do not go about spreading slander among your people. Do not do anything that endangers your neighbor’s life. I am the Lord.” – Leviticus 19:16
Ephesians 4:31
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” – Ephesians 4:31
Responding to Hurtful Words
We all encounter hurtful words from others at times. The Bible teaches us how to respond graciously when we are hurt. Instead of retaliating or responding in anger, we can choose to embody grace and understanding. By doing so, we break the cycle of hurt and seek reconciliation, demonstrating love and compassion, even in challenging situations.
Proverbs 15:1
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1
Romans 12:17-19
“Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” – Romans 12:17-19
Matthew 5:44
“But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” – Matthew 5:44
1 Peter 3:9
“Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.” – 1 Peter 3:9
Colossians 3:13
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” – Colossians 3:13
The Importance of Forgiveness
Finally, the act of forgiveness is vital in the conversation about hurtful words. Holding onto bitterness and grudges only weighs us down. The Bible teaches that we should forgive others just like God forgives us. By choosing to forgive, we free ourselves from the chains of hurt and can heal. In doing this, we reflect God’s love and grace in our relationships.
Matthew 6:14-15
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” – Matthew 6:14-15
Mark 11:25
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” – Mark 11:25
Luke 6:37
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” – Luke 6:37
Colossians 3:13
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” – Colossians 3:13
Ephesians 4:32
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
Final Thoughts
As we reflect on the importance of our words, we learn that what we say can have lasting effects on those around us. We need to remember that our words can either bring life or cause hurt. By practicing self-control, encouraging one another, and responding with kindness, we can uplift our communities and reflect God’s love. Forgiveness is paramount, allowing us to heal and grow in our relationships.
Let us commit to using our words wisely and speak life into others. May we choose to build bridges of love and understanding instead of walls of bitterness. Together, we can make the effort to be kinder and gentler in our speech.
As we carry these lessons in our hearts, let’s encourage each other to deepen our understanding of God’s word on this vitally important topic. If you have not yet explored related topics, consider checking out Proverbs 12:17 and Proverbs 15:15 to further your journey of faith and understanding.